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More CON prattle

Something that I always have liked about the convention is the Saturday night party cruising and the exposure of much more sexy female flesh than I am usually privvy to. Very often the costumes can be revealing of much more than I'm exposed to under most circumstances, and because it is intentional, I feel free to look and admire and appreciate without being untoward. I'm sure that I'm not alone in my sentiment, as I think most mens heads will turn when there is an "accidental" flash of ass flesh or the occasional bit of milky breast that peeks its head out from the folds of cloth that would normally bind it away from the light. And sometimes the costumes are something that would be more at home in a BDSM flick or a sexy lingere catalog, or possibly a catalog for a thong-and-electrical-tape distributor-- again, no complaints here, I'm all for exhibitionism, and I'm a willing participant in my role as observer.

But I noticed something this year that I haven't caught in years past: this same costuming behavior in underage girls.

There were no less than three different girls this year that I noticed that were dressed beyond provocatively; one in particular wearing a see-through dress with a thong and electrical tape who was seriously flirting with guys in their 40's.

I found her lack of pants disturbing.

A rather attractive young woman friend thinks I'm a prude for being disturbed. Her take on it is that the age of consent is sixteen, so as long as she's at least that old, there is no problem, and that the girl is probably wanting a man who actually knows what to do with a woman. Said rather attractive young woman friend is also a wet dream waiting to happen, but I digress.

I'm split. I'm obviously tittilated (which is the point), and moreso because of the forbidden nature of the fruit in question, but I'm also concerned because I know that although I do have gobs of social skills and a decent amount of self-control, this is a convention where there are a fair number of men who have never touched a naked woman in their lives and who have the social skills of a wombat on quaaludes. Plus there is alcohol.

I'm all for alcohol and scantily-clad women. But alcohol and scantily-clad underage girls is a powerful dangerous combination in my head.

There was also a girl who was certainly not even sixteen-- I'd say probably fourteen-- in the hot tub at one point, wearing a skimpy bikini top that wasn't particularly willing to contain her breasts, and she was nipples-to-the-wind on enough occasions that I have to think it weren't no accident. I don't know-- they may have been new enough to her to still be unruly, or the bikini top may have been new and she not used to it, but she sure didn't seem embarrased or even particularly modest.

Part of me is prude, yes. In the intellectual sense, they are simply nipples, and nudity is pretty much okay in my book, even with kids. But there is a difference between being nude in a place where nudity is accepted (like a nude beach or a resort) and flashing bits of usually unseen flesh with the intent to tittilate.

And you know, I'd even be okay with that if it werent for the worry in the back of my head that all it would take would be one inebriated horny geekboy with no self-control, and there would be an incident. And before you say that there wouldn't be any such thing as a horny geekboy with no self-control, consider that that is how most geek babies are made.

I've seen some underage girls at previous conventions wearing (or not wearing) provocative clothing, but it's usually been something simple and quick, and I've pretty much written it off as chance weirdness, or teenage hormones, or... well sheer luck. But this year it seemed like all pretense of accidental was gone. There was purpose behind it, definite intent.

I don't have kids. I don't pretend to know what goes on in their heads, nor do I know how to parent. I know that teenagers are sexual beings, and I remember the power of puberty. And maybe I'm just too old for the newness that is the society of today, but I have to ask where the parents are in this whole process? Is there some obliviousness that creeps in when both parents have to work and their daughter resorts to flesh-baring and flirting to get attention?

Or am I out of touch? Am I too attached to matters of the flesh that this disturbs me?


Jul. 11th, 2006 09:25 pm (UTC)
I don't think you're the least bit prudish.
Nothing against sixteen-year-old maturity. I understand that sixteen-year-olds believe that they know what they want, what they are doing, and believe that they are equipt to make choices and bear the consequences.

To a certain extent, they are correct.

But you are correct as well. Oh yeah, I remember how much I thought I knew what I was doing as a kid. I remember how much I resented the adults around me treating me like a child (especially this one REALLY cute college boy in my Karate class that I REALLY liked, and who treated me like a kid sister).

Big deal, we've all been there. Doesn't change how real it feels to them, and how dangerous, short-sighted and immature it looks to us.

The cold hard facts are, kids will be kids, and it's up to decent people to shelter them from the non-decent people, or they will get hurt. We shouldn't have to do it, but there you go. They won't like it, they don't have to. They have the "right" to act like dumb kids, and we have the responsibility to act like mature grown-ups. It might be "agist", but it stands the least chance of damaging someone.

Jul. 11th, 2006 09:54 pm (UTC)
Re: I don't think you're the least bit prudish.
I've known some 16-year-olds that had a lot more maturity than many adults, and I fonly remembering hanging around with a certain group of teenage girls when I was in college that was actually a lot of fun and formed some pretty long-lasting friendships. Then again, I didn't see most of them naked.

Well, except for that one...

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