Together gay men don't want to be friends with men they find attractive for the same reason together straight men don't want to be friends with women they find attractive. Why torture yourself?My first take is what the hell?
Then I think about it.
Still not Sure. I'm friends with a lot of women who I find attractive.
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a lot of the time.
While they may be attractive, I tend to focus more on the friendship value vs. immediate gratification value of infringing on my physical view of them.
Thought line kinda goes...
ooo xxx is wearing his military uniform and looking fine today. I wouldn't mind getting up close and personal with him.
think he'd be interested? probably, certainly wouldn't take too much to get his attention.
We've been friends for eight years. He's only been dating that chickita for about three months.
Is it really worth eventually losing a friendship over and creating drama in my life?
kk... one last look and then my eyeballs go back in my head.
It's at this point, I tend to kind of get distancy with that particular friend. Not for long, or pouty or anything like that. Just a few minutes space to think about something else and 'get back to normal'.
Of course, I do this girl friends too. So, I've decided it's just that I like looking at good looking people. I enjoy drinking them in visually or something cause I'm not really into girls. I think they're sexy, I like looking at them. But, I don't have a desire to do more than be touchy feely with them.
And, that was today's segment on more than you wanted to know randomness.
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A lot of the women that I'm friends with are very attractive, and one in particular can drive me up a tree with desire (and yes, she knows that and rather revels in it). I also know that I'm not going to have a physical relationship with her, and I far more appreciate her friendship than any sexplay that might arise.
But I'm also reminded that I rarely hang out with ugly people, or those who aren't at least above average in physical appearance (kind of a sideways look at the issue, but I tend to do that), and that makes me wonder about what it is in my makeup that causes that.
I also am clued in that I rarely get *really* close to the attractive woman-friends that I have, and I think that's because I stay guarded around them lest I confuse emotional closeness and physical attraction with falling in love. That always ends badly.