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More dismantling of the living room tonight.

I cleaned off the Barb-piano, which will be moving at some unspecified time in the future. Probably not moving out of the house-- she doesn't have room in her midget place for a piano, much as I'd like to make it go away, but I agreed to keep it in the house as long as I could. Of course, if I have to sell the place, all bets are off.

I'm taking down the bookshelves that were over the radiators on the sides of the fireplace. I'm goiung to be getting rid of some of the books and keeping others, but I suspect I may be getting rid of more than I'm keeping. I have a lot of technical manuals that I'm going to want to keep, programming books and the like. Quite a bit of sci-fi paperbacks that might go on the chopping block, and possibly soon. As much as I love the books, I haven't read them in a few years, and I can live without them.

This is difficult. I'm breaking out of patterns that were ingrained for many years, having to deal with balancing the old need-to-keep with the get-it-out mentality of the newer marmot. And I can feel the fighting happening. It's a lot like intellect vs. emotional connection, and it's tearing me apart.

Okay, not really. But it is stressful.

Back to the grind. Grind, grind, grind...


Edit: I've talked with Barb, and she agrees to sell the piano.

Wow.

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lexinatrix
Feb. 28th, 2009 03:24 pm (UTC)
Piano needs to make a trip to Craigslist, or Barb needs to pay for transport and storage. You need money - someone will buy a pinao. Sell it.

Seriously, dude, it's not just a little inconvenient... it's in your way. She's had time to move it, but she's relying on how easy it is to emotionally manipulate you to be lazy.
jmanna
Feb. 28th, 2009 04:25 pm (UTC)
This is difficult. I'm breaking out of patterns that were ingrained for many years, having to deal with balancing the old need-to-keep with the get-it-out mentality of the newer marmot. And I can feel the fighting happening. It's a lot like intellect vs. emotional connection, and it's tearing me apart.

Oh I get it. Especially my books. Books are so easy to label an allowable sin because they're Books and therefor good, right? Right?
jmanna
Feb. 28th, 2009 04:33 pm (UTC)
Also, get rid the piano. You're probably doing more damage in keeping it then giving it to someone who will take care of it.

Also, your debts to Barb are long since paid. You do not owe her this.
theophania_79
Feb. 28th, 2009 05:24 pm (UTC)
ditto. forget whatever promises u made to her and SELL IT. u need the $, and that's much more important. lie and say the piano is haunted too. maybe you'll get more money.
molasses
Feb. 28th, 2009 05:03 pm (UTC)
"...as long as I could. "
time has come today.


i love you and your revolution.
mle292
Feb. 28th, 2009 05:16 pm (UTC)
I cleaned off the Barb-piano, which will be moving at some unspecified time in the future. Probably not moving out of the house-- she doesn't have room in her midget place for a piano, much as I'd like to make it go away, but I agreed to keep it in the house as long as I could. Of course, if I have to sell the place, all bets are off.

I'll disagree with everyone else here and say that even though the situation has changed, it's better to keep your word.

"As long as I could" has expired, but she does deserve some sort of reasonable notice to rent a storage facility and get it moved. I'd think that a month would be enough, but I don't know all of the circumstances involved.
sageincave
Feb. 28th, 2009 05:37 pm (UTC)
This. Don't sell/trash it without giving her a "last call". Especially if it is a family piece.
magicmarmot
Feb. 28th, 2009 05:44 pm (UTC)
While I agree that giving her reasonable notice is a good thing, the determination of "reasonable" is a much more difficult proposition.

She's out of work right now too, so trying to plunk down cash to move and store a piano isn't in the cards. I know this well enough from my own situation, and she's not in a better financial place than I am by a long shot.

I also have the space for now, and though it is inconvenient, there's a hell of a lot more stuff of my own that is more inconvenient that I need to deal with. I am dealing with it, but it's taking some time. I can bear the burden of inconvenience for a while longer, but I do think that giving her notice to move the damn thing isn't unreasonable either.
lexinatrix
Mar. 1st, 2009 12:28 am (UTC)
"Reasonable notice" was given when you broke up. Don't believe anyone telling you that you're not keeping your word by retaining some long-lost crap from your ex. That's pure bullshit. You've kept your word, and your livelihood is at stake. Barb sure as shit isn't going to come to YOUR rescue.

Get rid of it.


alisgray
Feb. 28th, 2009 05:52 pm (UTC)
confirmed. give her a set time frame to remove her property before you do, and stick to it.

I'm fairly sure that the time for whimsical "haunted" ebay articles is past even when they don't require so much shipping. but I'm sure you could get something for it.
mplsindygirl
Mar. 4th, 2009 06:21 am (UTC)
Cleaning out is good for the emotions, believe me! The only time I really get to sorting and pitching is when I'm incredibly upset, usually to do with a break-up. I got a lot done today.
magicmarmot
Mar. 4th, 2009 06:40 am (UTC)
It will take me a long time to get rid of everything. I'm making a dent, but it's year's worth of stuff...
mplsindygirl
Mar. 4th, 2009 04:57 pm (UTC)
I've been in my house 15 years. With 3 kids most of that time. More recently added a housemate, and a home business. Getting a lot done means I did more than look at it and feel too overwhelmed to start.
magicmarmot
Mar. 4th, 2009 05:09 pm (UTC)
I hear that.
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