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I find that the women I am attracted to are almost always younger than I am. Sometimes considerably so.
And that really doesn't bother me all that much. Some of my friends have pointed out to me that I am "old enough to be her father" in one case. And I am. I think I'm actually the same age as her mother.
But I am so very much not my age. Guys that are my physical age have wrinkly skin and play golf. My skin is smooth, and I play mini-golf. I play computer games, and I read science fiction, and I like Stargate SG-1 and Buffy.
I feel like I'm in my early 30's. Really, I got my degrees in 1990 and entered the workforce in '91, so that would make me around 35-36 in career years. That kind of excludes the career that I already had before college.

I just don't think about my chronological age unless I have to. Like when I start considering dating. Should I make age a consideration? Should I worry that a woman that I find attractive may be 20 years younger than me? Or should I just go with her character and the things I like about her and not make a problem where one may not exist?

If there is a problem with age differences, how much of an age difference is appropriate? Is it measured as a percentage of your chronological age? Some span? How far away do you get before it's "just plain wrong"?

(Okay, this was actually triggered by the news story this morning about the woman teacher who had a child by one of her students (actually I think it's 2 children now) getting out of prison after a seven-year sentence. She's 42, he's 21. They are looking to get married now, and the comments from the radio show were disparaging to say the least.)


Aug. 4th, 2004 11:03 am (UTC)
Age matters...
... to a degree that can vary from person to person. "Young enought to be my child" is an uncrossable line for me. Period. This has caused a couple of nineteen year-old girls to get really pouty in the last year or so; so be it.
Beyond that kind of situation, I'm reminded of the words of Indiana Jones: "It's not the years, it's the mileage." Tara is eight years younger than me, and that's no big deal, especially since she's got at least as much "mileage" as I do.
So maybe that's the key. Striking the right balance between chronological age and experiential age, or something...

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