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Barb blew a gasket.

The head gasket on her car, up in Bemidji. Repair estimate is $500.00.

Technically, the car is mine. It's in my name. She pays all the operating costs and insurance, and she is the primary driver, and in my thoughts the car is hers.

But she's in school, and does not have wads of cash to spare.

The car probably isn't worth $500, but there aren't a lot of options.

I want to see her do well in school. I want to make sure that she is driving a car that won't blow up or something, because if she can't drive, she can't drive down to the house and do any cleaning and organizing of her stuff.

And then there is this whole thing about her being my ex, and my needing to cut the ties of security and safety that she had with me.


She can chomp into her student loan to get it fixed right now, but in the long run it's a terminal automobile.

What if any help should I provide?


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Sep. 22nd, 2004 02:15 pm (UTC)
To Fix or Not To Fix?
Does she require a car? Is other transportation possible for her to get to school/work, etc? Can someone else give her rides to Minneapolis for her part in the Great Purging?

I assume she wants you to pay the repair bill for the car, but I don't see further dependence being a good thing...

(I've been in the same situation. On the other end. It was a very difficult transition giving up the support I had always had, and I was a whiny bitch about it, but it was something I needed to do.)
Sep. 22nd, 2004 04:04 pm (UTC)
Re: To Fix or Not To Fix?
Actually, she is picking up the repair bill herself and is not asking me to pay for it.

Color me surprised.
Sep. 22nd, 2004 06:27 pm (UTC)
Re: To Fix or Not To Fix?
I had this great speech about how helping her now would lead to helping her later... nullifying her attempts at self-sufficiency.

It's best that she handle this herself. You're already helping more than most by providing a car in the first place.
Sep. 22nd, 2004 08:17 pm (UTC)
A trick!
I was hoping for a story about a big fight or something. I have no idea what to do about car problems. We just had to bite the bullet and get a new car.
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