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Quandry: Craving the intimate interactions of human flesh, but still feeling too vulnerable to become emotionally involved.

Resolution: the concept of fuckbuddies has come up more than once. Kind of a crude name for the concept, but essentially we're talking about a friend who is amenable to sexplay, but isn't looking to get involved in a relationship.

(Bear in mind that we are talking responsible and consensual sexplay here.)

Is this a good idea? On one hand, there is the satisfaction of the need for physical intimacy and human touch, the advancement of trust and exposure to a level of vulnerability that may be necessary for healing.
On the other, with vulnerability comes risk. Risk of emotional involvement, risks of one person wanting to continue when the other person doesn't, risk of hurt feelings.


Fuckbuddies: good or bad idea

Hell yes! There are times when sex and friendship go great together.
3(15.0%)
It can be a really good idea, as long as everyone plays by the rules and you don't get further involved.
10(50.0%)
Sounds fun, but it really never works out. Feelings always get hurt.
4(20.0%)
Absolutely not. Never mix friends and sex. It's a great way to lose a friend.
1(5.0%)
Jeez. Just pay for a hooker already.
2(10.0%)

Comments

dracut
Jan. 3rd, 2005 02:16 am (UTC)
FB's. Not what I was expecting my first comment in your blog to be about. Oh well... ;-)

FB's are not unusual in the gay community. It seems to be a recognition of a transitory need between friends and serious relationships. From listening to others, they seem to generally be happy with the results, at least if they start out as friends and then agree to move to FB status. I think that might help things later on as they have a pre-existing relationship of respect and trust that they can extend and modify as needed.

And I guess I'm quite a bit behind on the news on your front...

W.
magicmarmot
Jan. 3rd, 2005 02:19 am (UTC)
Well Ding Dang Doodly! Hi Wayne!

Yeah, lotsa news since I've seen you last.

Short news: Barb and I split up, I'm currently living in Iowa for work until Spring. Neither is conducive to happiness, but them is what them is.

More details later.

How are things in your neck of the woods?
dracut
Jan. 3rd, 2005 02:24 am (UTC)
Unemployed since August, contemplating my own business and getting married on July 4th.

I'll save the details for email...
magicmarmot
Jan. 3rd, 2005 02:26 am (UTC)
BTW, use my address:

magicmarmotstudios(at)yahoo(dot)com.

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