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"I need to understand the world"

Observers have a need for knowledge and are introverted, curious, analytical, and insightful.

How to Get Along with Me

• Be independent, not clingy.
  
• Speak in a straightforward and brief manner.
  
• I need time alone to process my feelings and thoughts.
  
• Remember that If I seem aloof, distant, or arrogant, it may be that I am feeling uncomfortable.
  
• Make me feel welcome, but not too intensely, or I might doubt your sincerity.
  
• If I become irritated when I have to repeat things, it may be because it was such an effort to get my thoughts out in the first place.
  
• don't come on like a bulldozer.
  
• Help me to avoid my pet peeves: big parties, other people's loud music, overdone emotions, and intrusions on my privacy.

What I Like About Being a Five

• standing back and viewing life objectively
  
• coming to a thorough understanding; perceiving causes and effects
  
• my sense of integrity: doing what I think is right and not being influenced by social pressure
  
• not being caught up in material possessions and status
  
• being calm in a crisis

What's Hard About Being a Five

• being slow to put my knowledge and insights out in the world
  
• feeling bad when I act defensive or like a know-it-all
  
• being pressured to be with people when I don't want to be
  
• watching others with better social skills, but less intelligence or technical skill, do better professionally

Fives as Children Often

• spend a lot of time alone reading, making collections, and so on
  
• have a few special friends rather than many
  
• are very bright and curious and do well in school
  
• have independent minds and often question their parents and teachers
  
• watch events from a detached point of view, gathering information
  
• assume a poker face in order not to look afraid
  
• are sensitive; avoid interpersonal conflict
  
• feel intruded upon and controlled and/or ignored and neglected

Fives as Parents

• are often kind, perceptive, and devoted
  
• are sometimes authoritarian and demanding
  
• may expect more intellectual achievement than is developmentally appropriate
  
• may be intolerant of their children expressing strong emotions

Renee Baron & Elizabeth Wagele

The Enneagram Made Easy
Discover the 9 Types of People
HarperSanFrancisco, 1994, 161 pages

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